Now that I'm writing all this gen, I'm thinking about non-con

Note: of tangential relevance at best to the general warnings discussion. Rather than engaging with the dos/don’ts, I’m talking here about the meaning I give to particular terms, mainly “dub-con” or dubious consent. I’m interested in others’ definitions and usages, but it is unlikely I will stop enjoying dub-con in fanfic and I value having a way to distinguish a dub-con story from a story in which either the character or the author defines what happened as rape.

( pleasure and pain are hard to talk about! )

Comments at DW; comments at LJ.